Finding Your Authentic Self: What If You Don't Know Who You Are?

Aug 15

We hear a lot about being authentic, but what if you're sitting there thinking, "I don’t even know who I am or what I want!" How are you supposed to be true to yourself when you’re still trying to figure that out?

First of all, take a deep breath. Seriously, it's okay. Feeling unsure about your identity or what you really want is totally normal, especially in a world that’s constantly telling us who we should be. Authenticity isn’t about having it all together—it’s about being real with yourself, right where you are.

And believe me, I’ve been there. Not too long ago, I had no idea who I was or what I wanted either. I’d spent so much time putting others first and living up to everyone else’s expectations that I lost sight of my own. But then I decided to take a step back and really dig into who I am. It wasn’t easy—there were a lot of ups and downs—but slowly, I started to reconnect with the real me.

So, if you’re feeling a bit lost, start small. Pay attention to what lights you up, what drains you, and where you feel most like yourself. These little clues are like breadcrumbs leading you back to who you truly are.

And here’s the thing: authenticity isn’t about being perfect or having all the answers. It’s about showing up as you are, questions, uncertainties, and all. It’s okay to say, "I’m still figuring things out." That’s real, and that’s where the magic happens.

As you go through this process, be kind to yourself. Give yourself the space to explore, try new things, and change your mind. Your authentic self will reveal itself when you’re ready.

Need a little extra support? If you’re feeling stuck or just need someone to help you sort through it all, I’m here for you. I offer 1:1 coaching to help you uncover your true desires, build confidence, and live a life that feels genuinely yours. And to make sure we’re a good fit, I offer a 30-minute complimentary alignment call. Let’s chat, explore your goals, and start you on the path to embracing your authentic self—just like I did. To schedule, click HERE

Selfless to Self-Yes!

🌟 Empowering Women to Reconnect:

Self-Discovery, Self-Love, and the Journey from Selfless to Self-YES

🌹 My Belief

I believe the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the relationship you have with yourself. When you begin to truly know, understand, and honor who you are — everything changes.

Self-love isn’t selfish. It’s the path back to your truth.

Self-discovery isn’t indulgent. It’s where healing begins.

And choosing yourself isn’t a luxury. It’s liberation.

This is the heart of moving from selfless to Self-YES.

🌿 About Me

Hi, I’m Kandy — Self-Love Mentor, Self-Care Advocate, and Human Design Guide.

For most of my life, I blended in, adapted, and overgave. I was the strong one, the helper, the fixer — the one who rarely stopped to ask what I needed. Eventually, burnout became my wake-up call.

My journey into self-discovery and healing took a profound turn when I found Human Design. Suddenly, I understood why I operated the way I did. HD gave me language for patterns I couldn’t name, permission to stop abandoning myself, and confidence to embrace my true energy.

It wasn’t a label — it was a permission slip to finally be me.

A tool that brought clarity, compassion, and so many “aha” moments that changed everything.

Now, I guide women to experience that same kind of self-understanding and inner freedom.

🌸 How I Can Help

🌟 Discover Your True Self

Together, we peel back the layers of conditioning and old stories so you can reconnect with who you’ve always been beneath the noise.

🌟 Understand Your Energy with Human Design

Human Design blends ancient wisdom and modern science to help you understand how you’re uniquely wired. It’s not a box to squeeze into — it’s a roadmap to your authenticity.

🌟 Embrace Self-Love & Alignment

Through heart-centered guidance, we explore what it looks and feels like to choose yourself, honor your needs, and live in alignment with your truth.

https://www.selflesstoselfyes.com

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